Insights · Timothy Shetter, M.S.
Marriage Insights. What is actually happening between the two of you.
Most marriages do not fall apart in one big moment. They drift in small, ordinary ones. These articles are about noticing those moments, understanding the pattern underneath them, and deciding what to do next, together.
Written from 18+ years of working with couples. If you want to see how I work, start here.
Marriage
Marriage Counseling, Marriage Coaching, an Intensive, or AI: Which Kind of Help Does Your Marriage Actually Need?
If your marriage is struggling, one of the first questions is usually: What kind of help do we actually need? And that question has gotten more complicated. A…
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Communication
Parallel Play or Parallel Avoidance? Why You Feel Lonely in Marriage While Sitting on the Same Couch
Same couch. Two completely different marriages.
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Culture
Solo-Dating While Married: Independence That Strengthens the “We”
Does your independence strengthen the "We," or quietly replace it?
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Marriage
The 2-2-2 Rule in Marriage: Why “How Do We Stay Connected as a Couple?” Matters More
Most couples don't wake up one day and decide to disconnect. It happens slower than that.
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Communication
ADHD Marriage Counseling in Arizona: When ADHD Turns Marriage Into a Manager/Employee Relationship
When one spouse becomes the manager and the other starts feeling like an employee on probation.
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Marriage
Why the 80/80 Marriage Idea Helps, But Still Misses the Point
Nobody feels deeply loved when they feel constantly measured.
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Communication
How to Be More Present in Your Marriage: Why Small Moments Matter More Than You Think
Small moments become the emotional memory of a relationship.
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Mental Wellness
6 Tips for Problem Solving
Problems are something we all encounter. Learning how to effectively solve problems is a skill that anyone can learn.
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Marriage
Getting Married? Prepare For Disaster? Really?
The more valuable "insurance policy" for couples is finding out if they are ready to be married.
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